Friends are like sweeteners or sugars.
Now I will probably be referencing my accident and the lessons that have been taught because of it for awhile, so if you don’t like that then I suggest you stop reading my blog till the end of summer. Anyways, after my accident I had dozens of people wondering what happened, was I okay, and any other question you can think of. And some asked out of genuine concern, but others out of pure curiosity or just cause they’re nosey-nellies. How can you tell the difference? Well until something fairly life-changing happens to you, it can be kind of difficult to see the difference and which people are the real deal.
See it’s like sweeteners. You have your sugar, it’s natural (mostly) and then you have your sweeteners that will get the job done, but something just isn’t right. When you use Splenda and something is just off. You can tell it’s not really sugar, it’s just pretending to be. That’s how some friends are or can be. When your life gets hard and you’re really struggling they just aren’t there. They aren’t true friends, and they aren’t willing to see you through the hard times no matter what. No matter what hashtag they used when they posted that selfie of you two at the bar, they just aren’t there when you need them. These friends or life-sweeteners are take em or leave em. As long as you know not to count on them when times get rough it’s okay to hang out with them, as long as you aren’t expecting them to all of a sudden become real sugar overnight. If you know photosynthesis you know that can’t happen.
Then you have some of those in-between sweeteners, like Truvia. Ssee, like sugar it is a plant but it’s not quite the same chemical make up. These are your more casual friends, the ones who check up on you through some sort of technology when they know you’re down, but don’t always make the effort to physically be there for you. We all have those friends who will text us or post on our Facebook wall to make sure we are okay. But the second you want to hang out they go silent or are all of a sudden super busy. Oh yeah, you’re real busy pinning pictures of your dream wedding or cats. These friends, like the previously mentioned ones, are great, as long as you know what they are and don’t set your expectations too high. Now these friends may surprise you with a carton of ice cream once in awhile to comfort your broken heart, but not always.
And then there’s real sugar, nothing else is just quite like it. And please don’t go all organic or not on me, this analogy isn’t going quite that deep into the agricultural or chemical side of this. But like real sugar, true friends are the real deal. You can tell because they are sincere and genuine. They don’t try to fake you out, by pretending (like the previously mentioned sweeteners) to be something they aren’t. These sugary friends are there for you through everything. I am lucky enough to have a handful of friends like this. Friends who have been there for me while I’ve been in recovery. Friends who visited me, called/text/facetimed me to see how things are going and how I am doing. These are friends who, without being asked, have in the simplest terms: been there. These are the friends, who like sugar, have been there for me through tough times (break ups, failure, and rejection) and I have never had to question what they are. They are sugar, plain and simple, no questions need be asked.
But with that being said, if you want to have sugar friends you have to be one. Your mom, grandma or someone has probably told you that you’ll attract more flies with honey than vinegar and they’re right. (And no comments on how many flies poops will get ya, okay?) If you want true, genuine, there for you through everything friends YOU have to be that friend first. You have to be willing to drop everything and be there for a friend in need. You have to check up on friends just to make sure they’re okay. If I hadn’t done that, been truly and 100% there for my friends they wouldn’t do the same for me. And if they haven’t really been through any hard times during our friendship they know that if the tough time comes I’ll be there with cupcakes and some tissues or whatever they may need.
Whatever you put into the world is what you get out. So, logically, if you are a lame friend, you’re gonna get lame friends. Jesus wouldn’t have gotten any followers if he was judgmental or rude, he got followers and is our savior because He put out love into the world and loves everyone. And may God bless everyone who takes the time to read this. And remember to be a sugar friend, no one likes that Splenda aftertaste.