Dear (Younger) Me,
Well hello there younger me, I have a few words of advice and encouragement from an older, but not quite grown up you. First and foremost you need to stop worrying about everything under the sun. You are a smart girl, and you don’t need to stress about school, tests, and American History quite so much. You will learn everything you need to know and do above average in school all on your own accord. So please stop thinking that you need to cram for that econ test during choir, mainly because that never works and it makes you sing off key. With that being said, don’t stop trying to do well in school because you should try and you will succeed, just know that there are other things you can spend your evenings doing. Try your best, and don’t stress…I’m pretty sure that’s half of why your chin acne is so horrible. Oh and that will get better, but not disappear entirely. (Sorry)
You should know that the boy and popular kids who made most of seventh grade a living nightmare for you won’t matter a few years down the road. And please don’t let what they do get to you because it was and is stupid and they are not worth your time. Focus on the people at school who do genuinely care about you and don’t try to make you constantly feel like the biggest loser on the planet. And don’t worry, no one will remember when your livejournal account got leaked and your crush found out about your obsession with him. Well, you will remember, but you won’t cringe quite so hard about it in the future.
Speaking of boys, STOP WORRYING ABOUT THEM! You spend so much of your teen years worrying about crushes and not having a boyfriend and it is not worth it. All you do is make yourself feel like there’s something wrong with you, that you aren’t good enough for anyone and NEWS FLASH: you are not perfect but you are damn sure good enough for anyone who wants to be a part of your life. You need to stop worrying about what other people think, especially boys, and just be the best you that you can possibly be. Life isn’t a waiting game, so please stop waiting for prince charming to sweep you off your feet like he does in your favorite YA novels. I know it’s hard to accept yourself when so many people in your life don’t seem to, but trust me you have a lot of friends and they will still be your friend after you truly unleash your inner nerd. Also, going back to the crushes thing, stop having crushes on guys you do not even know! They will not live up to your expectations and if they haven’t noticed you after a month or so they definitely won’t notice you after a year of admiring them from afar. You do not need a guy to make you feel special or loved, you have plenty of friends and family who love you, focus on them and you will be so much happier. Don’t forget to focus on yourself and love yourself, it’s not easy because you tend to pick at yourself because you don’t think you’re pretty, smart, or any other positive adjective. But you are all of those things in your own way, you may not be movie star pretty but that doesn’t mean you aren’t beautiful. Always listen to what Ms. Johnson says when it comes to boys, she’s usually the voice of reason and will tell you, in the nicest way possible, when you are being ridiculous. But then again, she did tell you that you would end up marrying Brad and that didn’t happen…so maybe take what she has to say with a grain of salt. ;)
If your friends treat you like garbage, dump them. Seriously, you do not need friends who make you feel less than, you need friends that lift you up and make you laugh. Luckily you have a good handful of them, so focus on those friends even if they aren’t “popular” because popularity in high schools means absolutely nothing once you leave it. The handful of friends who truly get you, are the ones you’re going to be friends with for many years to come. And once you get to college that number of friends will increase and you will meet some people who will be your forever friends. So dump those few friends who always leave you in the dust or make you feel like an idiot for trying or caring. Spend as much time with your family as you can because they are the people who will always be there for you and you’re going to need them in the future quite a bit more.
If you get anything out of this letter just remember to be you. Do whatever makes you happy and who cares what everyone else thinks of you. In a few years times the only people left from this time of your life, are the friends who never judged you for being obsessed with Harry Potter and the loudest singer in the choir. Everything will be fine and you will grow up to be an awesome and strong person with lots of dreams, the determination to go for them, and people who will lift you up rather than bring you down. So stop stressing about the future and enjoy the present.
An Older & Slightly Wiser You